Interpersonal Conflict (Revised)

Disagreement between friends or colleagues is inevitable. Strategies are definitely required to curtail frictions, thus feeling of resentment and discontent.

Recently I had a conflict with my close friend, Ben, with whom I am working on a project, together with other team members. Tasks had been delegated and shared amongst us equally. Ben had agreed to help me in completing the task that was given to me. I was unable to bear the responsibilities due to other commitments at that instance. With due respect, I made an informed notification to the team lead, Adam. I was dismay, when Adam verbalized that Ben is needed and has agreed to cover for another team member despite conceding my earlier approached. I was disgruntled with Adam’s decision. I felt that Adam was unfair and had circumvented me, to get his own arrangement to his benefits.

I confronted Ben on this issue. However, he refused neither in commenting nor to fuss about this. He claimed that it is just appropriate in abiding the team lead’s instructions. Since he had agreed with Adam’s call, I am left with no choice but to find other alternatives. I had to abort on my previous plan, which was crucial to my career journey.

On the other hand, Adam is already known for always taking the easy way out. Everyone has been accommodating. However it takes just a bad soul to reprimand him of his apathetic attitude.  I felt that I just had to make that call.  We had a stern dispute and been arguing even over trivial matters. I sensed that he has dominated me. Being work in this project still, I am left with no choice but have to endure this as the consequence of the squabble we had. 

Nevertheless my perseverance has reached its peak. I just felt like withdrawing myself from this hideous situations I am facing almost everyday. Now that the situation is so tense, how should I endure this?  We still have few more months before the completion and I am already despondent.