Interpersonal Conflict

Disagreement between friends or colleagues is inevitable. Strategies are definitely required to curtail frictions thus reduce the feeling of resentment and discontent.

Recently I had an encounter with a close friend, Ben, whom we are working on a project, together with other team members. Tasks had been delegated and shared amongst us equally. Ben had agreed on specifications, which was tasked to me, as I was unable to fulfill due to my capacity of time. With due respect, I made an inform notification to the team leader, Adam. I was dismay, when Adam verbalized that Ben is needed and has agreed to cover for another team member instead. Even though I disagreed with Adam’s decision, I ignored him due to his tyrannical attitude. I have confided Ben much earlier. I felt that Adam was unfair as he made arrangement to his own benefits.

I confronted Ben on this issue. However, he refused neither in commenting nor to fuss about this. He claimed that it is just appropriate in abiding Adam’s instructions. Since he had agreed with his call, I am left with no choice but to find alternatives to get the task done.

On the other hand I felt that Adam has circumvent me to get his things done. Adam is already known for always taking the easy way out. Everyone has been accommodating. It takes a bad soul to reprimand him of his apathetic attitude and I felt that I just had to make that call. We had a stern dispute and been arguing even over smallest matters. As usual, he has once dominated me. Being working in this project still, I am left with no choice but have to endure this as the consequence of the squabble we had. 

Nevertheless my perseverance has reached its peak. I just felt like withdrawing myself from this hideous situations I am facing almost everyday. Now that the situation is so tense, how should I endure this?  We still have few more months before the completion and I am already despondent.